Most everybody has had a “good riddance to dangerous garbage” when it got here to ending a poisonous relationship. As a rule, the “dump-ee” had some remaining phrases to say on the matter. Mine was a person I name The Monster Named (hmmm, let’s simply say Joe Schmo), who advised me to “go discover one other d**ok to suck tonight so you possibly can really feel higher about your self.”
Have any extra winners to share?
One factor I do not perceive is, HE needed out, HE was sleeping with my finest pal (and obtained her pregnant whereas we have been in marriage counseling) so once I mentioned okay, lets finish it, he was enraged. He advised me the world can be a greater place if my mom had scraped me out with a rusty coat hanger than if I had been born. He additionally mentioned, “You may by no means discover somebody to deal with you the way in which I did.” THAT’S THE WHOLE POINT.
My ex (mom to my son) mentioned I am a tragic a loser and nobody else would need me. She abused me for the 2 years we have been collectively. I have been in a contented relationship for 7 years now and have one of the best relationship with my son from my ex. I even have a son with my present associate. 🙂
That with out him I am nothing.
It was simply his poisonous, narcissist manipulation to bellitle me, as he was doing related issues for 7 years(time we have been collectively). And this was hilarious, as a result of I used to be caring for every thing about our relationship – it was me who discovered and furnished our condo, I used to be cooking, cleansing, and paying for many of stuff as I’ve a greater paid job. I dumped him as a result of he was a narcissist and cared solely about himself.
Ahhh, obtained a bit checklist ;p
– I’l kill you once I see you two strolling
– You assume anybody would wish to have intercourse with a fats pig such as you? (My SO likes my physique, which is definitely only a bit over the voluptuous aspect)
-It’s important to get your self examined for an STD since you might have given it to me. (I by no means cheated, she nevertheless did and by no means obtained examined, I ought to simply shut up.)
– If you happen to do not (too many issues to specifie) I am going to come over with some mates and we’ll beat you up. (By no means occurred, my SO is an ex police-officer and really not impressed by anyone)
– If I kill myself it is your fault (Yeah, not)
– I am going to beat up your son! I am at your home now and you are not house (Known as the cops on her then who have been there very fast) and likewise contacted my neighbours to verify my home please.
– I order you to interrupt of all contact with my household (with pleasure)
– It’s important to let me in once I come over to go to you, however provided that you ship “him” away whereas I am there (Like what? You are not that necessary to me that I even need you to return go to me.)
– I’ve these issues that I took with me once I moved, I am within the neighbourhood and may deliver them by. My response that I did not want it anymore was not acceptable, I obtained an e-mail filled with hatred but once more…
I am so glad she’s anyone elses downside now, however probably the most glad I’m for the truth that I had the heart to interrupt up and select for my very own happyness lastly 😉
My ex broke up with me after which despatched me this complete textual content essay about how they by no means beloved me and that I used to be only a recreation to them. 👍🏻
Not mine however was given permission to share.
My sister dated this man for like 2 years. Tremendous manipulative and poisonous a**gap. When she lastly had sufficient and broke it off, he flipped his lid.
Advised her she was “f*cking nugatory anyhow” and “___ was a greater f*ck anyhow” then he advised her he had been planning to “drop [her] a** anyhow as a result of [she was] beginning to actually pack on the kilos and it was getting gross”
She had an consuming dysfunction for years. And he or she was actually solely beginning to get again to a wholesome weight, so calling her fats was probably the cruelest factor her might’ve carried out.
Fortunately, shed been going to remedy by that time and was actually proud of the added weight so the phrases did not do what he needed.
My EX taunted me saying you will have one thing like a p-enis… solely smaller!” I mentioned, “Oh, you appear to be my new girlfriend… solely fatter and fewer versatile”. She did not take all of it that properly!
Popping out of a two yr baby-trap relationship between her and my checking account the place my son and I have been simply background characters. Two years of emotional abuse, controlling and coercive behaviour ruined relationships with family and friends, misplaced my job, and a *lot* of bodily abuse – which was at all times backed up with “there’s nothing you are able to do to cease me, I can do no matter I wish to you”. That was true, she was completely proper. I am fourteen inches taller than her and shut to 3 instances her body weight so nobody would have ever taken me critically if I might spoken out, seemingly they’d assume I used to be attempting to cowl my tracks or one thing (that is going again a number of many years). Factor is although, it would not matter how massive you’re when somebody takes a dinner plate and swings it full pressure like a hammer so the sting of it hits your prime two entrance tooth – once you’re asleep. Or they stick a needle underneath your fingernail, clamp your toes within the £200 hair straightener you simply purchased them. Nor does it assist once you’ve let your guard down – like once you’re being intimate, it is going very properly, then out of the blue with no warning the particular person on prime of you begins utilizing your jaw as a punchbag whereas laughing at you (you possibly can’t see them due to my beard, however I’ve obtained little flower formed scars alongside my jawline on either side from the place her rings minimize in to my cheeks).
Anyhow, the factor that sticks most in my thoughts from that point is from once I simply packed a giant bag for my son (I haven’t got even one single possession, merchandise, no household picture’s, something in any respect from my life earlier than the age of 26, simply my medals which occurred to be at my Dad’s home) and walked out to avoid wasting us each. Her parting shot was “Positive, take the little ba***rd, it is a f****ing c**t anyway. I by no means needed it, ought to have drowned it within the f’king bathtub cos it is ineffective similar to you. I am gonna inform social providers you beat me and did issues to the child so that they’ll take him off you anyway, then once you’re in jail I am going to simply depart the little c**t on a bus for somebody to take”.
Now, I am no angel, I am not even a very good particular person. Particularly once I was youthful my go-to response for something I felt slighted by was to specific my displeasure through the use of my paws slightly than my phrases (there’s causes behind it however this put up is way too lengthy already) – however saying that, I’ve by no means *ever* put my palms on a girl in that manner, and to the day I draw my final breath I by no means ever will. Via all of the abuse, trauma, distress it by no means even as soon as crossed my thoughts, however simply in that one prompt – for example it was a really, *very* shut name. I am not happy with that in any manner form or kind, however proper in that prompt turning round and strolling away, selecting to de-escalate slightly than retaliate, “permitting” that one who’s simply upset me to stroll away with out “punishing them” for it, that is the one most self restraint I’ve needed to present with something ever.
That I am not ok 2b beloved however my pal, that you just met by means of me is nice sufficient. Happend 4times in a row, by 4 completely different folks that do not know one another. It should b true.
My ex-fiancée, the week that my brother died, despatched me an e-mail about how we needed to delete our marriage ceremony Fb account and that I used to be a horrible particular person. I do know that he knew about my brother dying, as a result of we’ve got mutual mates that may have advised him. I am glad that I ended issues with somebody who waited until it harm probably the most to harm me extra.
This was one of many many horrible issues he mentioned, however it stands out probably the most,
You are nothing however a lazy person who no person needs and no person loves!!! I additionally reported your dog stolen and despatched each your photos in to each vet within the state so you will be arrested once you deliver him in for his pictures!!!
Not completed with all of the authorized nonsense, however a no-contact order works wonders.
Ex-broke up with me for a fraternity brother of mine Senior yr in school. In all probability cheated on me with him however I’ll by no means know nor do I care. I began relationship another person, who she knew. Ex began asking my fraternity brothers in regards to the new woman. That’s once I misplaced it. At an inner however formal seniors graduating occasion, I handed all the way down to my fraternity brother the chair on which me and the ex final had intercourse on within the locker-room type bathe of the fraternity home…which was already a notable occasion as a result of it befell the day after finals the semester earlier than after we had mistakenly thought the home was empty and we have been each fairly loud. 2 hours after the fraternity occasion, I get a name from the fraternity brother which I didn’t reply. half-hour later was the ex, which I did. She was barking up a storm about how that I used to be ruining her picture, that I used to be destroying her good reminiscences…blah blah blah. I didn’t say a phrase however laughed so exhausting and hung up the cellphone. Final I ever heard from her…I married the girl I had began relationship and he or she will get a kick out of the story each time.
He advised me that he wasn’t on the lookout for something critical…we had been collectively for 8 years, lived collectively for six and I had raised his youngsters like my very own. He might simply by no means cease dishonest.
After I cut up with my kid’s mom, on Christmas earlier than are custody preparations, she mentioned she had left the state and that I’d by no means see my youngster once more. She then mentioned I quantity to nothing and I ought to ok*ll myself as a result of it will be higher for my youngster to by no means know me, and he or she would be sure to inform my youngster good issues about me so they would not understand how pathetic I used to be.
I used to be a keep at house dad, so on the time I did not have any cash or a job. The home was underneath her title. I used to be residing in my automotive that Christmas, however I had a trunk filled with presents to present after promoting just a few issues I had. She despatched that message after I sat in a parking zone 3 hours ready for them to indicate up.
After a while, I properly established myself, have an exquisite relationship with my youngster.
The phrases she mentioned on that Christmas broke me as an individual, however that allowed me to rebuild myself into way more of a father then I’d have turn into with out leaving.
…I’ve lots of petty issues to say 😅 I will not say them, however man I actually wanna 😂
My huisband advised me hè did not need op pay alimony, as a result of we do not have children. And subsequently I used to be capable of construct my carreer inside our marriage. Quess what: we had a son (nonetheless born) in 2019 AND an elaborate fertility program which led to a miscarriage after in 2021. So yeah, his commentaar harm me.
He advised me im nothing with out him, he mentioned he was going to commit suicide to attempt to get me again.
you will by no means be greater than a curiosity sh*g. This was 10 years in the past.
He took all of my greatest insecurities and made enjoyable of them. He advised me I must be insecure about them and listed out examples of how true they have been
One cheated on me & advised me I used to be an alcoholic (after he obtained a DUI). One other mentioned that I used to be mentally sick as a result of I used to be leaving him after he’d cheated on me (then he obtained into the containers I might packed & stole a number of of my issues). One other advised me that he hated that I might minimize my hair, that I ought to skip lunches (apparently I used to be getting too fats for him), and that it wasn’t exhausting work however merely dumb luck that I might been capable of land an awesome profession (however he had no downside spending the cash I made on previous automobiles & different ineffective c**p, together with utilizing MY severance verify to purchase an previous Ford pickup). Once I advised him I needed a divorce, he was shocked. Actually? He guilt-tripped me into leaving a sofa that was bought with MY bonus verify & ended up giving it away after I left.
I’ve my grandmother’s luck with regards to awful males!
“You are not fairly sufficient to dump somebody like me. In reality, *I* say it is over between us!”
They did not say it to me, however they tried to persuade your entire college that I used to be racist…
man I might remorse recalling this, however right here we go:
fyi i’ve a speech downside, primarily stuttering (bettering tho) however it was rlly rlly dangerous final yr particularly after lockdown. Sooo when issues kinda broke of he mentioned bullshits like ‘your novel is a waste of time’ ‘we will date once more when you learn to communicate English *wink emoji’ this s**t lowkey harm bc its not that i cant communicate english correctly i simply have a speech downside that occurs no matter what language I communicate. He harassed me manner too f*****g a lot afterward, utilizing his pal’s accounts to ship hateful messages and even to the lengthen of private and college emails. He was a pathological liar and left me scarred for a very long time. I am all g now tho.
I do not know if it counts, since I did not dump them. However the first woman I dated left me for the man she was dishonest on me with, and he or she advised me explicitly. She additionally advised me how significantly better he was than me.
The second woman I dated admitted to intentionally attempting to push me into suicide.
Once I realized he was a narcissist, I made a decision to finish issues. My son had handed away the yr earlier than from cardiac arrest introduced on by vitality drinks. When he began gaslighting me (once more) and I mentioned I used to be carried out, he obtained nasty and bodily. He advised me that if I’d been a greater mom, my son would nonetheless be alive. I misplaced it and tried to depart. He dove into the automotive as I used to be leaving, inflicting me to unintentionally run over his leg. I known as 911, then he pulled a gun on me whereas I used to be on the cellphone. The dispatcher overheard the entire dialog and despatched police. He tried to say I mowed him down however he was partially within the passenger, hanging out the door so that they didn’t imagine him. They arrested him based mostly on what the dispatcher had relayed. Every week later he was arrested AGAIN for breaking his son’s jaw. No revenge wanted.
That he’d slept along with his ex the evening earlier than and it had confirmed him how a lot he “actually cared” for me.You understand, as a result of there isn’t any higher option to say “I really like you” than forking another person.
I advised my ex to decide on between his addict or the youngsters and myself. He mentioned straight out mentioned his habit. Good riddance.
He tried to unfold lies that I used to be a p*dophile and posted revenge porn of me with a abstract of how I appreciated younger boys.
This, this from the 30 yr previous that went on and on abput how he needed to “deflower” a virgin, pressured me to decorate up as a schoolgirl as a lot as doable, beforehand had *been* with a youthful woman and stole underwear from misplaced and founds so he might do nasty issues with them (belief me… nasty).
I used to be younger myself (21), had moved out to be with him, had a psychological sickness and could not help myself. Fortunately I obtained away after a number of years and what I do know now was at the very least one rape, however it took 3 or 4 years.
He requested everybody he knew to name me and say what a loser I’m, and so forth., however I obtained no calls. Seems all of them sided with me and now a have one other big group of mates.
Process failed efficiently.
Technically she dumped me, however what she mentioned nonetheless harm.
We have been speculated to exit on Valentines Day, however she got here house and mentioned she had different plans. After arguing a bit, she mentioned she had plans with one other man.
So I requested her if she was breaking apart with me on Valentines Day, and her response was “It is impolite to cancel plans with somebody as soon as you’ve got made them”.
Yeah, that stung.
“What sort of a mom would a lady like YOU be?”
I had turn into shut mates with an Irish co-worker. He was a reasonably naïve nation boy who beloved my tattoos and ever-changing hair colour, and was at all times fascinated with my uncommon upbringing and adventures. Till we drunkenly attached after our firm’s Xmas social gathering, and I grew to become pregnant.
I used to be virtually 30 and needed to have it and stay mates. He threatened to return to Eire to keep away from youngster help if I didn’t do what HE and his household again house wanted- which was to have the infant and provides it up for adoption. On the similar time, he needed to call it after an ex-girlfriend of his. (WT precise F?) I’m by myself in each sense with no household or help system, and I didn’t need my youngster to develop up in the identical depressing poverty that I did. So I had an abortion. Because it turned out, I used to be by no means capable of get pregnant once more. So my “household” dies with me.
After I broke up with my ex (after a yr of his condescending habits and I lastly had sufficient after he berated me for posing with an commercial/billboard of certainly one of my fav Ok-pop stars), he advised me for my subsequent relationship I get into, I’d almost certainly be bodily abused.
Dumped him as a result of he couldn’t cease dishonest on me. Advised him the day I broke up with him, I couldn’t imagine I gave him my virginity and he had the gall to inform me he had been a virgin, too. Pure unadulterated a*****e!
We are able to nonetheless be mates.
I didnt have some huge cash as I used to be a single mother and I used to be doing one of the best I might. This grown man lived along with his mom and had nothing of his personal and had the audacity to say to me “atleast all my stuff would not come from goodwill”. Like what stuff do you even have, oh yeah none, it is all of your mothers. My stuff would possibly of been second hand however it was MY stuff. I by no means talked to him once more
My ex-wife advised me I’m a fraud, broke each image of me in the home, and advised me “F*** your music” (I’ve a aspect gig as a musician). She then spent six months begging me to return again, however once I lastly advised her I’m by no means coming again, she advised folks in texts that went to my ten yr previous child’s iPad that I’m a “laughable guardian” and that she is the sufferer of my abuse. It’s been fixed, full lunacy ever since.
It is possibly not “nasty” however I nonetheless cannot wrap my head round it. He mentioned “It will work if you happen to’d change your angle”. Certain… I actually simply must be okay with being talked all the way down to the entire time, with being ignored, with being gaslighted… certain factor.
I do not actually actually it, however She was very well mannered, and that i f*****g deserved a loooot worst for what i did. (Ghosted her, as a result of i used to be to a lot of a coward to finish the relation like a traditional human being, this was Over 15 years a go and that i nonetheless remorse it )