Hey Pandas, What Is Your Largest Pet Peeve As An Lgbtq+ Member? (Closed)

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Individuals calling issues homosexual as a joke or insult.

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The “I hope you are not interested in me” transfer after which getting offended after I say they arent my sort.
Bonus: corporations throughout pleasure solely promoting rainbow stuff. I am an emo, I do not put on colour until it is my pleasure pin. Simply because we’re queer doesn’t suggest we gown like jojo siwa

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Panromantic Asexual right here, and I’ve only one phrase I get a LOT of: Erasure.
As an asexual you get lots of “how do you KNOW you hate intercourse for those who’ve by no means had it?” Again up there, I do not hate intercourse, I hate kissing, intercourse I can take or go away. I’ve no intercourse DRIVE. Onerous to get into intercourse for those who’re not .
As a Panromantic I get, “Are you REALLY? you are not even relationship.” I am sorry if my asexual tendencies prioritize friendship over relationship, however I do know I am aesthetically interested in nearly each physique sort and completely each gender or lack thereof, so again off.

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Christian nationalists who actually need to exterminate us.

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I’m asexual and aromantic (additionally quoiromantic). All of the misconceptions of those labels are the explanation why I by no means come out to anybody. Every time I point out that I do not need kids or get married, the “you’ll change your thoughts” makes me SO MAD. One other one is when folks assume that ALL asexuals need to be single and childless, and when folks assume that aces cannot have kids

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Individuals at school assume it is cool to make use of ‘it/that’ as my pronouns, since I am non-binary.
I can also’t present any type of affection for my girlfriend in public with out being stared at like I am some type of alien…

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oh boiii there r too many to rely however: when ppl say that ppl who’re “straight” passing relationships do not belong in the neighborhood. bisexuals and pans, omni and poly folks have each proper to be a part of the neighborhood.

but in addition what about straight nonbinary folks? or straight transgender {couples}? or demis?? or aces?? additionally they have each proper to be part of the lgbtq+ neighborhood. this must cease being separated like cliques cuz it isn’t abt placing folks in packing containers.

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When folks say I do not appear to be I am bisexual or gender fluid

Nevertheless I like when folks genuinely need to know extra and I will do my very best to reply their questions.

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You are Homosexual? Cool, so is my cousin twice eliminated. Have you learnt them?

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just a few phrases that we’re all bored with listening to

“i establish as an assault helicopter”
“you’re not a man/woman for those who don’t have a [body part]”
“you possibly can’t simply change your gender like that”
“oH So yOu’Re aTtRaCtEd tO PaNs”
“That’s wonderful, i’m interested in trans folks”
“it’s only a section, you’ll develop out of it”
and deadnaming and misgendering typically

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Hello All, Heterosexual male right here. I like and help all my pals within the LGBTQ+ neighborhood. That being mentioned, I’ve a easy request: Please appropriate me if I take advantage of incorrect pronouns. I’ll all the time attempt to establish you as you’re. Please know that I like you and respect you. I’ll help you and battle for you. Glad Pleasure!

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when cant comprehend the truth that lesbians DO NOT like males. regardless that its a part of the definition (non-men who like non-men) ((key phrase: NON males))

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Homosexual males performing as gatekeepers for our neighborhood.

Homosexual males of a sure age went via a hell I am unable to even conceive of, however they are often extra phobic of others on the sexuality or romance spectrum than spiritual extremists.

I’ve witnessed homosexual males verbally abuse trans folks, dismiss bi folks and makes jokes on the expense of lesbians in each private {and professional} settings. But when they caught a whiff of a dig at what they thought was their course, I’ve seen a fury like no different.

Clearly this angle is as a result of trauma they skilled, however there is no such thing as a excuse for passing that on to the infant queers.

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Individuals asking “aren’t you asexual?” each time I name somebody fairly or enticing.

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Stereotypes. From each exterior & contained in the neighborhood. We’re all people and I want folks would respect that and get to know us for who we’re.

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I am a lesbian and my spouse and I’ve a daughter. If you wish to see my blood boil simply ask who’s the “actual mother”.
We’re each her actual mothers!

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I’m omnisexual, however I’ve all the time dated males solely. Individuals like to say I’m not actually part of the lgbtq neighborhood due to it and it annoys the hell out of me

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When folks say one thing homophobic and do not know me and I am pansexual and am relationship somebody who’s non binary… As getting known as a f***t

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When folks say that Asexual just isn’t an actual sexuality.

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Being instructed by my very own mum that I am solely trans cuz it is FaShIoNaBlE, and that I am not transmasc, I am a trans PERSON. Being instructed this by a cis individual HURTS

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“I am not homophobic! I’ll love and settle for homosexual folks however I do not help their life-style!”

Honey, you are homophobic. In case you do not help queer folks, you are homophobic. In case you assume that homosexuality is a sin, you are homophobic. It would not matter how a lot you’re keen on the person queer individual, for those who do not say you help LGBTQ, you are homophobic (and no, it doesn’t suggest you are afraid).

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When folks know that I’m nonbinary and say that they’re okay with it, however then use she/her pronouns.

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they’re identical to: oh no, you may have a crush on me! one in every of my pals legit ran away shielding her face insisting I appreciated her… 🤣🤣🤣 like woman i obtained requirements lol
btw im bisexual(or presumably pan however bi for now ) – I like each girls and boys

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Now that I (agender, sexed feminine at beginning) married a member of the alternative organic intercourse I’m by some means now not “actually” bisexual/queer. Alrighty then… guess I simply imagined having fun with boobs and cunnilingus lol

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I hate it when folks say to pans “Oh do meaning your interested in pans?”

And once they deal with us in another way!! That basically annoys me, however hey, the following time somebody says a homophobic remark to you (“Theres solely 2 genders/sexualitys” or “its a sin”) simply say “Actually! Wow, thanks for giving me extra proof that I AM a alien!!”

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“ooh, women who like women are scorching, you actually know these to show a man on” -weird man on the web 🙄

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Heteronormativity. Like if I say I am seeing somebody, they will ask ‘whats his title’ and many others

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When my so-called “pals” inform me that they love me much more after I say to them that I’m bi. Simply deal with me regular.

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I am bi. “When are you going to go full lesbian?” THAT’S NOT HOW IT WORKS. I hear it a lot and it drives me insane. I am not going “full lesbian” EVER. I’M BI. It is actually invalidating. My label is my label and I am fed up of it being handled prefer it’s a section or a step to changing into a lesbian

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Individuals teasing me that some scorching man at my faculty desires to go on a date with me. It drives me so insane!

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Individuals dismissing my id as “confused”

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If you come out to a member of the family they usually say “Possibly it’s only a section? You’re solely *insert age*” hasn’t occurred but however I really feel like my mother would possibly say that. I additionally added this as a result of it’s nonetheless a pet peeve to me simply from listening to that individuals say that… sorry to everybody who heard these phrases!

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Once I go someplace with my buddy, who’s carrying for instance LGBTQ+ bag or pin, they’re all the time like “oh, so you’re girlfriends, how cute!” Very first thing, my buddy is non-binary, so I feel that it may well’t be “girlfriend”; second factor – we do not have to be in relationship simply because we’re each a part of LGBTQ+ neighborhood. I am be, now I’ve obtained a boyfriend, so, as somebody clever mentioned, f*ck off

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I will add a barely totally different one. At BBQ/social gathering with husband. He was the one male at principally homosexual girls do. He volunteered to cook dinner. One woman mentioned eww, boy germs, not going to eat if that cooks!
OK you do not like males that method, however actually? Not doing any good with feedback like that

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HAPPY PRIDE MONTH PEOPLESSSSSS! Please be form to others and have enjoyable! (P.S if in case you have any humorous lgbtq memes, be happy to publish them right here)

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Hello first publish

I’m feminine and other people use she/her pronouns due to that
When i inform them I take advantage of they/them pronouns they ask what gender I’m

It simply annoys me

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When i put on the rainbow flag and other people assume I am Lesbian or trans. Like, no. I am Asexual.

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Aro/ace right here! What actually annoys me is when folks misgender my non-binary/trans pals, or wh

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This simply occurred the opposite day and it actually bothered me. I used to be going for my test up on the docs when all of a sudden my physician pointed at me and mentioned in a very stern, certain, and critical voice “Sooner or later you ARE going to have intercourse, when that occurs use safety.” And like, I do know they have been simply attempting to ensure I follow protected intercourse, however as an asexual individual it simply made me need to scream out no. I do know most individuals do actually have intercourse, however simply altering it to an “if” would have been so a lot better. I’ve no intention of ever having intercourse, it simply is not for me. However figuring out folks simply anticipate me to 100% be concerned in it simply bothers me.
I do know it isn’t that large of a deal, they usually did not imply any hurt by it, however it nonetheless actually pissed off me.

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my mother and father are each suuuuuuper homophobic, however im a closeted bi. anytime we watch one thing “homosexual” occur on television my mother goes ‘”ew”. and as soon as i instructed my dad to get some neon orange socks and he went “no im not homosexual”. nobody requested however oookay.

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I’m lesbian and other people assume that I like each woman ever. Like, that’s not the way it works 🙄

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When folks say I ought to be pleased with it. I’m bi, and I hate that individuals inform me to be pleased with it. I grew up in a house the place I used to be instructed that what I now am is mistaken. I’m so afraid, I’ve by no means even instructed my mother and father, and I by no means will.

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That solely as a result of i look female they assume my pronouns continues to be the identical whereas they do ask my pals pronouns😩probably not their fault. however anyway completely satisfied pridemonth!

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LGBTQ+ folks telling Ace folks they don’t seem to be a part of the neighborhood. Like tf you imply aces aren’t repressed or judged or handled like we’re damaged? Such as you’re telling me that not solely do aces should take heed to acephobic strangers saying we’re damaged and confused and all this different c**p, however then on high of it we’ve got to be invalidated by the very neighborhood that PROTESTS invalidation?? Now clearly I do know not everyone seems to be like this. And there are FAR extra good LGBTQ+ on the market. However the ones that can stand there and look you lifeless within the eyes and inform you “you are not part of this neighborhood.” And “You do not even perceive what it is like. You don’t have any proper to name your self oppressed.” And “Its not even actually a sexuality so it would not rely.” These are those that instantly come to thoughts after I consider pleasure. It is the explanation I do not go to the parades or work together nearly something besides r/asexuality. As a result of nobody on there’s gonna inform me I “do not belong”

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Ace virgin. “Oh, you may like intercourse. You simply need to be particular. You HAD a boyfriend. Do not inform me you by no means had did it with him.” Nope, nope, and nope.

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One other one
#1 Again after I was questioning my orientation, I believed that I used to be biromantic and I made the error of telling my now ex-friend about it. Subsequent day at school after we needed to do posters and undergo magazines to search out correct footage to make use of. She continually confirmed me some 40-year outdated girls and mentioned “this is a gf for you!” “Do you want her?” And clearly others observed and I instructed her to cease. One different woman nonetheless appears at me like I am a bit of grime on her shirt. If I occurred to be bi or lesbian, idrk if I’m, it doesn’t suggest that I’m attracted to each single woman that I see, okay?

#2 I’m a demigirl, and tomboy on high of that. My mother tried to power me to put on a pink gown to a celebration. Thoughts you, I completely hate clothes, skirts, stockings, and the colour pink. Once I was on the lookout for garments for my birthday, she stored suggesting me skirts and clothes and I continually instructed her to not do this as a result of “they’re too girly”. So, if I ever point out being demigirl to somebody, I wager my soul on that they are going to say both “however that is simply woman!” Or “wannabe LGBT+ member”

Sorry for my rant. It simply makes me mad

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Being launched because the “queer buddy”. Each friggin time. To not point out the truth that I’m not out to everybody (for essential causes…). Thanks for broadcasting that to the entire world, together with with bringing me alongside as your token homosexual.

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When the once-homophobic-now-ally folks in your life act like if all of the sh*tty issues they’ve mentioned or completed prior to now by no means occurred as a result of they’re cool now.

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Polyamorous right here “Is not that simply dishonest although?” no my buddy I am in love with them each equally they usually each are okay with the actual fact I am relationship one other individual.

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Both folks going out of the way in which to inform folks that you just’re LGBTQ+ for no motive, or the traditional “he makes use of she/her pronouns,” and vice versa (additionally used with they/them)

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I’m not a member I simply don’t discriminate or actually care if persons are a member. I deal with everybody the identical. Individuals assume as a result of I’m good to all that I have to be homosexual I get requested it rather a lot. Why does it matter what my sexuality is? I discover a lot of folks enticing of all genders simply because I don’t act on it (my desire of who I’m an intimate with) shouldn’t imply something . ( for those who noticed me I’m the bearded older Florida retired man who doesn’t give a rattling what folks assume)

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It actually buga me when folks assume any relationships have to be sexual or romantic in nature, not even bearing in mind the chance that there are different labels for relationships. I’m a closeted aroace however that does not imply that I am unable to have an s/o, and although I’m at present within the closest I’ve little doubt in any respect that individuals will assume these sorts of issues simply because its the norm which yeah bugs me.

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Center age fragrant asexual right here. Sure relations hold “reassuring” me that I will meet somebody sometime that is excellent for me.

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Individuals assuming that asexual folks cannot have long run completely satisfied fulfilling relationships or that our accomplice is doing one thing mistaken. Not everybody foundation their relationship round intercourse. I might argue that we’ve got a greater relationship than most straight {couples}. We actually put effort into ensuring day by day that we present one another love. When intercourse is not on the desk most individuals do not know learn how to create intimacy. Fortunately collectively 12 years.

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The truth that everybody thinks they’ve the suitable to know in case your homosexual of no or something! You do not owe it to anybody.

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The truth that there are individuals who make me legitimately scared to point out any type of affection to my gf in public. ( bi she/her right here)

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When a straight man breaks up along with his girlfriend and says, “I feel I will go homosexual now.” It is not a alternative, like “I am switching from espresso to tea” or “I am attempting a brand new hair type”.

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My pet peeve?…….🤔

Homophobes!

Easy.

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That every one bi folks cheat on their accomplice or need threesomes…

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Individuals caring about my sexuality for completely no motive. “Oh, are you homosexual?” As a response to actually something. As soon as was ‘accused’ of being homosexual for selecting a pink popsicle.

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It may sound bizarre, however it’s pleasure. I’m completely satisfied most of us see pleasure month as a celebration, I’m 100% behind the thought of pleasure month. However it’s not me. I take care of melancholy and nervousness that went undiagnosed for many years. I’m not pleased with who I’m and I by no means have been. Possibly you possibly can thank the bible, as a result of I grew up pondering pleasure was a sin, however I truthfully am principally ashamed of who I’m, how I’m. June is a really troublesome month for me mentally, as a result of as a lot as I need to get up and shout it with everybody else within the parade, I am unable to. It is not who I’m and I do not know if I can ever be that individual.

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One other one: When folks say “Oh simply say your Bi” or “Oh simply say your non-Binary”

Story time
On a social emdia I had, I instructed this individual that idk if I used to be bi or pan, and he simply mentioned “Oh simply say your Bi”

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when folks do not know what I imply after I inform them i am pan, so I say i am bi then I’ve to say i am lesbian earlier than giving up.

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Me saying I’m bi and them going: „no no honey you’re simply confused/you simply need consideration“

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This has most likely been mentioned already however…

Individuals not liking me or being awkward round me after I come out to them

Like b***h cease I am not interested in you

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The notion that as a bi individual in a straight passing relationship I have to “show” my sexuality.

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As an asexual I get so many individuals telling me it’s as a result of I haven’t met the suitable individual but or it’s really simply trauma associated and could possibly be cured by remedy. No, I genuinely have little interest in having folks contact me or wanting to the touch anybody intimately myself. I do discover folks enticing and I’ve affectionate emotions for some women and men however don’t ever take into consideration desirous to have intercourse or kiss anybody. I’m interested in the thought of emotional bonds and friendship.
It’s stunning how many individuals – together with these within the LGBTQ+ neighborhood who simply actually don’t appear to know the concept I simply don’t take into consideration intercourse. I’d like to fall in love and get married to somebody of both gender however that simply doesn’t contain bodily contact. Emotional intimacy alone doesn’t appear to exist which is an actual bummer since that’s 100% what I’m into

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Please settle for my apologies if I offend however generally I don’t know as a result of I’m a 68 12 months outdated straight girl who has a lesbian mom and aunt, however sometimes I wouldn’t know learn how to deal with somebody accurately, I’ve no downside or points with nonetheless somebody desires to establish or be I simply am generally curious however don’t need to be intrusive or offend.

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“It’s only a section”

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The quantity of labelling there’s in the neighborhood. I do not know what to label myself as as a result of there’s to many and generally the phrases do not make sense to me.

When some says “(insert ridiculous title) is for individuals who like folks with (insert one thing/inexperienced eyes)” some do not even sound like they should do with sexuality/gender and many others.??? They simply sound like kinks to me, it simply appears bizarre tbh.

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When folks say that it is due to who’s round me. If being round a couple of LGBTQ+ folks “turned me LGBTQ+” inside 2-3 years, then why would not being raised by folks which are exterior of the neighborhood “repair” it? (I am not going to say what I establish as or who I like as a result of my belief points. That is nothing in opposition to any of you, just some folks…)

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When folks assume ‘a person and a lady’ is regular, and that different relationships that differ from this usually are not.

I haven’t met lots of homophobic folks earlier than, however I do know a couple of those who don’t hate the LGBTQ+ neighborhood , although they assume ‘straight’ is the norm. It’s comprehensible that for some their mindset is on this method, however nonetheless it’s form of annoying once you attempt to clarify that ‘straight’ just isn’t the norm, and that there is no such thing as a ‘regular’ relating to sexualities and genders as everybody ought to be legitimate.

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Queer (cassgender, bi) mother or father of queer childen/younger adults. Soooo a lot LGBTQ illustration is sexualized. Undoubtedly not intercourse shaming however seeing ones disappointment in by no means being represented aro/ace and all of the exhibits find yourself in sexual relationships, I get pissed off. Discovering good exhibits/media/tales with messages not associated to sexuality or romance is close to unattainable within the LGBTQ neighborhood. I need my trans little one to have media that represents them however doesnt make them assume they need to be on the lookout for a relationship or thats its going to be the main target of them being trans!

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when my exfriend who name every little thing homosexual after which sexualizes that “homosexual factor” then study im nonbinary after which say idc im nonetheless gonna name you a lady. Although i get missgendered rather a lot it doesn’t hassle me however like he okay owns and wont. Plus lots of his pals which are woman or a part of the lgbtqia+ and if they’re laying with a lady he’ll make it wierd

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When in a definition of pansexuality, it says one thing like ‘interested in all genders, together with male, feminine, non-binary, and trans folks.’ No. Trans males are males and trans girls are girls, they should not be listed individually from women and men! I am certain even when I used to be solely interested in males or girls, trans folks of that gender would nonetheless be a part of that attraction! I’ve seen this on so many web sites and it bugs me each time.

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Individuals (my household primarily) being homophobic and brushing it off. My nan, who has been higher than most individuals since I got here out mentioned that individuals celebrating pleasure ought to have acid poured on them. I did not assume she thought like that however apparently she hates individuals who ‘have to be praised for being homosexual’. I used to be going to go to my first pleasure subsequent week however I simply do not need to any extra.

One other factor is my buddy(who I like and recognize) by some means not realising that my mother and father hate that I am homosexual. She is as effectively so that you’d assume she’d realise that not everybody can personal a pleasure outfit, not everybody’s mother and father need to go to pleasure and never everybody can speak out loud about it in school as if she outs me by chance the results will not be enjoyable for me.

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Individuals fetishizing homosexual multilevel marketing relationships as a result of for 1, ew and one other factor is it’s ONLY multilevel marketing relationships, wlw relationships are labeled as “to sexual” and ”depriving two pretty males of wives”

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Individuals attempting to insult me by calling me homosexual. Ik ik, it is true jut nonetheless…

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when straight boys flirt with one another as a joke, which might be okay however they go to date and find yourself moaning and pretending to have intercourse and being gross. however for some motive,nobody blinks a watch and it is wonderful, regardless that you recognize if it was a homosexual couple that might be taken completely in another way. It is so silly

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As a transmasc(bodily), and questioning demi-boy, the truth that our father wont help us is coronary heart breaking. He all the time says stuff about how we have been born a lady, and so we all the time will likely be. -anti

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When straight folks assume they get a “Straight Flag”. You is simply the default setting. You have not been preventing to your rights for years on finish. You do not want recognition.( Class Poster At present, 2 boys in my class wrote black and white flags as “Straight Flags” after which crossed out all Pleasure Flags on the poster. And so they yelled at us for crossing out their non-valid flags once they crossed out our legitimate flags.)

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The phrase “life-style” to explain one thing you haven’t any management over. I didn’t select to be homosexual. (Possibly I misunderstand one thing right here as a result of language variations however this makes me mad.)

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The truth that bEiNg gAy Is A sIn aNd yOu WiLl gO tO hElL. Like bruh 😒

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being afraid to inform my household

The truth that there must be houses for deserted youngsters

having somebody yell at me for saying my defenition of a gender i used to be/am is barely this one factor and I used to be mistaken (bi and pan) *cough*terrywaters*cough**cough*

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second publish
ppl saying oh I am regular

btw for those who prefer it or not everyone seems to be within the alphabet mafia cis is part of it

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Hello All, Heterosexual male right here. I like and help all my pals within the LGBTQ+ neighborhood. That being mentioned, I’ve a easy request: Please appropriate me if I take advantage of incorrect pronouns. I’ll all the time attempt to establish you as you’re. Please know that I like you and respect you. I’ll help you and battle for you. Glad Pleasure!

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1 That complete faze everybody went via on TikTok once they have been “bi” however would by no means date a lady

2 I used to be questioning my gender some time in the past and was trans for some time, I got here out to one in every of my pals, he was good however everytime a coach would name me a lady he would yell at them and scream “DO YOU LNOW HIS PRONOUNS” it was actually embarrassing and I all the time instructed him I don’t care why must you, however stored doing it till I smacked him. Nonetheless does it generally and it makes me actually uncomfortable as a result of I’m questioning once more and leaning to fem

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Telling folks your pronouns or sexuality and them simply disregarding it

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when my (particularly 2) straight pals make some…questionable remarks

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I get known as “homosexual” alot even once they know im pansexual they usually hold making jokes like, “haha your interested in frying pans haha!”

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The small relationship pool is not any joke. Generally it may well actually really feel such as you’ll by no means get a contented relationship and it screws up along with your shallowness.

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Being known as a “member” this ain’t no membership.

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Individuals that do not know an individual asking them “Are you [sexuality/gender]?” or “Do you want [person]?”

You do not know me. All you are able to do is assume, as a result of I do not even know the reply to present it to you.

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Okay, so I’m pansexual deergenderfluid. I hate when folks say that xenogenders don’t exist. Or when folks say that this implies I’m a deer. I’m otherkin (tanuki) however I’m not a deer! STFU! I actually have folks fake to “hunt” me as a result of I’m a deer? What the f**okay?

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The time period pansexual and that so many individuals, in and out of doors of the neighborhood, thinks that bisexual means “solely cis women and men.” That was by no means true. It means two or extra genders. My bisexuality has by no means been unique, after which in the future I heard concerning the phrase pan and all of a sudden folks have been saying s**t like “I establish as pan as a result of I do not exclude folks based mostly on gender.”

Neither do most bisexuals, and lots of pansexuals could have solely been attracted to at least one gender regardless of what they are saying. It is simply one other expression of biphobia.

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